You've spent decades showing up for everyone else.
At some point, you stopped being on your own list.
Relational and nature-based therapy for women and couples in Evergreen and Denver, Colorado.
You're not falling apart.
You're just exhausted from holding everything together.
You're the one who manages the emotional weather of every room you walk into. You anticipate what everyone needs before they ask. You keep the peace, plan the holidays, absorb the tension — and somewhere along the way, you started going a little numb. Or a little ragey. Sometimes both.
The people in your life are doing fine. That somehow makes it worse.
You don't need someone to tell you to practice self-care. You need someone to help you figure out why you keep giving yourself away — and what it would actually feel like to stop.
Where do you want to start?
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For You
You're tired of being the strong one.
You love your people. You're also exhausted by them. Individual therapy for women who are ready to stop disappearing into everyone else's needs — and figure out what they actually want.
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For Your Relationship
The love is still there. So is a lot of distance.
You're not sure if you're drifting or done. Couples therapy using Relational Life Therapy — for relationships where something real is still worth fighting for.
This isn’t a place to vent and leave.
A lot of therapy is about processing feelings. That's useful — but it's not the whole job. My approach is relational and direct. We figure out what's actually driving the patterns keeping you stuck, and we change them. Not in theory. In your real life, with your real people.
I'm trained in Relational Life Therapy, an approach developed by Terry Real that's particularly effective at getting underneath the surface — fast. Especially in relationships where the same fight keeps happening in different costumes.
I also offer nature-based sessions in Evergreen for clients who do their best thinking outside four walls.
Here is what change actually looks like.
A client came in convinced the problem was her family. She was doing everything — every holiday, every crisis, every emotional cleanup — and no one seemed to notice. She was furious and exhausted and starting to go numb.
The work wasn't about getting her family to appreciate her more. It was about helping her see what she'd been giving out of fear versus what she actually wanted to give. A year later, the holidays are genuinely good. Not because her family changed. Because she did.
That's the work.
“Integrity is the cure for unhappiness. Period.”
—Martha Beck
Sometimes you start alone. Sometimes together.
Many of my clients come in for individual therapy and eventually bring their partner. Others start in couples work and continue individually. The path isn't always linear — what matters is that you start somewhere.
Ready to stop running on empty?
Not sure if this is for you? Let's chat and see if we’re a good fit.